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I AM A SCHOOL COUNSELLOR

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It is National School Counselling week.

In honour I have created posters that you can feel free to download and use.

The students are why school counsellors do what they do. It has been my privilege over the years to do what I do. So if any of the below resonates with you, please feel free to use it.

I AM A SCHOOL COUNSELLOR

You Are the Reason I Do What I Do.

I am here not just for the tough days, the overwhelming moments or the times when life feels like too much – but for all of it. The dreams you are chasing, the friendships you are figuring out, the questions you are afraid to ask, and the moments you wish someone truly understood.

This time in your life can be a wild ride- exciting, confusing, sometimes frustrating. YOU don’t have to do it alone. You are not meant to.

You are seen. Even when you feel invisible.

You are heard. Even when you feel like you have no voice.

You are enough. Just as you are.

If you ever need a place to untangle your thoughts, or just breathe — I am here. No judgement. No pressure. Just support, honesty and a space where you matter.

I feel you have a right to know why I do what I do.

I am a school counsellor by choice.

Some of the things I have to do are difficult, but I choose to be here.

I am here because I believe I can help.

I care; I mean I really care about young people. I do my best to help as many students as I can, being advocates for you in school.

I want you to know

What you do with your life is up to you.

You are in charge of you. I am here to help you reach your full potential. I will insist that you learn. It is your ticket to absolute freedom.

Be all that you can be!

It isn’t easy being a teenager; even I can get frustrated with your raging hormones. You are growing and changing. I understand that. Take responsibility for your life and your actions and your teachers and others will respect you.

I do care, don’t ever forget it.

That’s why I am here.

That’s why I choose to do what I do.

I want you to know YOU can

Stop…Think…Speak

Remember, your thoughts lead to feelings lead to your actions. Change your thinking and you will have control of your life.

No matter what anyone else says or does to you, you are a worthwhile person. A gift from God. You are somebody.

There will be times during your school experience where negative things are said or done to you. You may experience painful times. Life can be difficult. It’s not what happens in your life that matters, but how you choose to respond to it.

What you put into school is what you will get out of it.

You can make a difference. If you choose to share a part of yourself with me, we can work together to make changes in your life. Your school experience will become everything you hoped it could be. Get involved and you will feel better about yourself.

Give life a chance.

One of the easiest things to say and one of the most difficult things to do are to live one day at a time. If you can master letting go of the past, not worrying about the future, but living each day to the fullest, then you will have lived a great life full of few regrets.

Be patient.

Change takes time. Let yourself grow. We all can change if we have the courage and the wisdom.

I have faith in you.

NEVER GIVE UP! Have Hope! Become the gift from God you were meant to be and you pass it on to others.

I hope your life is everything you ever dreamed it to be.

I am grateful if I am a small part of your journey.

REMEMBER

You are STRONGER than you think. BRAVER than you feel. You are more CAPABLE than you think. You are NEVER ever ALONE.

Come as you are.  I’ll be here for you.

We Have A Few Ideas and We Hope You Can Make Them Better

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Helen and I are launching our new website very soon and we hope you will join us on our journey. We will be offering workshops for mental health professionals and teachers.

Larry Ferlazzo @larryferlazzo.bsky.social is the impetus for this blog post. He expressed the idea that we may have a few ideas to share , but more importantly we hope you can make them better.

Helen and I have been educators , school counsellors and psychologists and along the way we have learned a thing or two. We are hoping that when you attend our workshops you will gain a few ideas and make them your own, yes make them even better as we know you will do.

So join us on this next chapter where we share tips, tools and technology that can impact the work you do.

Susan Spellman Cann Helen MacKinnon

Registered Psychologists

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When You Impact A Life: The Ripple Effect

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Do you ever stop to really think about the impact you have? I know that as a teacher, counsellor and therapist, I was always too busy to stop and reflect on the impact I was having unless I received a letter or note reminding me that I indeed did something that mattered. It’s often said that a single act of kindness or something that you say (words do matter) can set off a chain reaction, touching countless lives in ways we might never fully comprehend. Imagine standing on the beach as the sun sets, the waves gently lapping at your feet. Each wave represents a life you’ve touched, and the endless ocean symbolizes the infinite connections that stem from that impact. As a school counsellor therapist or teacher, this is the essence of your work—creating ripples of positive change.

You Don’t Just Impact One Life

When you really think about the times you extend a helping hand, offer a listening ear, or share a moment of understanding, you begin to see the ripples that go far beyond that initial interaction. These ripples spread out, affecting not just the person you directly helped, but also everyone they come into contact with. For example, helping a student navigate their anxiety not only empowers them. but also brings a sense of calm to their family and friends who witness their growth and resilience.

You can Have a powerful Impact That Isn’t always EASY to measure

Think about the joy in a group of friends’ faces as they gather for a photo, especially at graduation time. Your influence on one person in that group can enhance the happiness and well-being of everyone else there. It’s a beautiful, interconnected web of relationships and experiences that you may not take time to really think about. By fostering a supportive environment for one student, you help create a ripple of positivity that extends to their entire social circle.

The warmth and support you offer to just one individual can strengthen family bonds, provide guidance, and foster a sense of community. When a person feels supported and understood, they are more likely to extend that same kindness and understanding to their family and peers, perpetuating a cycle of compassion.

Each moment of support and encouragement you provide is a gift that keeps on giving, as it inspires people to pursue their dreams and share their passions with the world. You may never hear about it, but it’s there.

In the end, the impact you have is immeasurable. So, continue to do what you do one person at a time. Your role as a school counsellor, therapist or teacher is not just a job; it’s a mission.

Your journey of impact starts each day, and the ripples you create will touch countless hearts and help you affirm that what you say and do matters.

Navigating Anxiety | Counsellor Talk

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Does your mind sometimes feel like a tangled ball of yarn, with worries and fears pulling you in every direction? You’re not alone. Anxiety is a common emotion we all experience, but when it overstays its welcome, it can disrupt our daily lives.

Understanding Anxiety

Imagine anxiety as a fire alarm in your brain. It’s there to alert you of danger, but sometimes it goes off even when there’s no real threat—like when you burn toast. When anxiety becomes frequent, intense, and prolonged, it can interfere with your daily routine and overall well-being. Recognizing this is the first step towards managing it.

Anxiety is a common emotion, but when it becomes persistent, it can interfere with daily life. Frequency, intensity, and duration matter. If you’d like to understand more go to AnxietyCanada.com

Avoidance Behavior: The Sneaky Culprit

Avoidance might seem like a quick fix, but it’s a sneaky culprit that can make anxiety worse. Ask yourself: Are you dodging certain situations because of irrational fears? If the answer is yes, it’s a sign you need to address the root of your anxiety. Talking to a doctor or a counsellor can be incredibly helpful.

Stay Connected

Humans are social creatures, and sharing our feelings can be a powerful antidote to anxiety. I walk and talk almost daily with colleagues and friends and it is amazingly helpful to deal with a range of emotions. Whether it’s chatting with friends, joining a support group, or even writing in a journal, expressing your thoughts can reduce the feelings of isolation that often accompany anxiety.

Everyone Experiences It Differently

Just because you’re feeling anxious doesn’t mean you have an anxiety disorder. It’s essential to understand that everyone experiences anxiety differently. Educate yourself about anxiety and mental health to better navigate your emotions. Check out mentalhealthliteracy.org for more fabulous resources.

Professional Treatment: Your Toolbox

When anxiety becomes too much to handle on your own, it’s time to explore professional treatment options. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and medication are two effective methods for treating chronic anxiety. Finding the right approach might take some time, but it’s worth the effort to explore different options and regain control over your life.

Anxiety doesn’t have to rule your life. By understanding it, addressing avoidance behaviors, staying connected with others, and seeking professional help when necessary, you can manage anxiety and lead a fulfilling life. Remember, you are not alone on this journey.

For more resources check this out and for tips on well-being, visit counsellortalk on Facebook and join the conversation on Instagram @counsellortalkcanada.

Enjoy every second of every day and take care of yourself!

Note: This blog post is for informational purposes only and does not substitute professional medical advice.

Who Doesn’t Need A Counselling Skills Toolbox?

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We all have our unique paths to walk, and sometimes, we could use a little help. That’s where Counsellor Talk can step in, providing the tools to navigate your emotions and experiences and help you to understand yourself better.

Being open to counselling as a way to transform your life is a good idea and we have loved helping those that have crossed our paths over the years.

Counsellor Talk Is written with counsellors in mind. However, teachers and those working with youth or adults can utilize the ideas too. Several handouts will work with people at every age level. There is no shortage of ideas to get those counselling ideas flowing to help others.

Who doesn’t need a counselling skills toolbox? A few ideas you can put in your toolbox are:

Just for Today

Start each day in a positive way. Accept yourself exactly as you are, knowing that you are enough.

When we celebrate our shared humanity and think of ways to help not only ourselves but find ways to help others and make the world a better place, we heal. All of us can do anything just for today.

Life is Better When…

We focus on gratitude rather than grievances. We treat ourselves with the same compassion and care that we give to others. So let go, embrace your flaws, and listen to the whispers of our intuition guiding you on your journey.

Challenge Yourself to…

Be more, do more, live more. Try something new, and learn to play more. Remember, by focusing on your strengths, you gain personal power. By reframing your thoughts, your worldview can change. By listening with an open mind and an open heart, you learn more.

Something You Might Need to Hear Today

You matter. You are a unique and valuable individual, worthy of love, respect, and acceptance. Like a butterfly emerging from its cocoon, you are continuously evolving and adapting to change.

Something I Need to Understand

Feelings aren’t facts. They are neither right nor wrong; they just are. Self-awareness is the first step towards personal growth. Exploring your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors can help you better understand yourself and your needs. Challenging negative thought patterns and cultivating positive affirmations can lead to a more positive outlook on life.

Remember, you are meant to be here; you have a purpose.

Well-being Tip

Treat yourself right; it’s time for a spa day so go ahead and take one. An economical version, relax in a bubble bath and let your worries unwind. Make time to have friends over for dinner. Enjoy the moments, make memories, and bring more joy into your day.

Rediscover simple pleasures and leave your phone behind. Find solace in simplicity; it’s your special place.

Final Thoughts

If you don’t like your story, rewrite a new chapter. Create the life you desire. Strive to thrive rather than just survive and shower yourself with self-love.

As Ronna Jevne says, “Hope is the small voice in our heart that says yes to life.” As your journey continues, remember, that you are not alone. Counsellor Talk, hopes you connect and collaborate with others every step of the way.

For more insights and tips, you can check out our book.

Counsellor Talk : Connecting Through Creative Counselling Techniques

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It has been a process, to say the least in creating this book, but we are so happy it is here. So much learning as we did not hire anyone to help us. We look forward to sharing Counsellor Talk with you and are so grateful for all the input from others.

We believe our book is real and relatable, and we hope it will be truly inspiring. We invite you to explore a multitude of ideas that we hope will get your creative juices flowing.

Get ready to embark on a journey where we will share several tips, tools, and techniques to empower you in finding your path, and discovering what works best for you and your clients.

As psychologists, we understand the power of connection. The therapeutic alliance is the foundation upon which healing is built, the glue that binds us together in our shared humanity. In “Counsellor Talk,” we’re offering you the tools to deepen those connections, breathe new life into your practice, and embark on a journey where healing isn’t just a destination. You will use many of the ideas as jumping-off points to meet the needs of your particular clientele.

So, grab your favorite mug, brew a cup of your preferred beverage, (we prefer a cup of calming tea), and settle in. Let’s explore together, heart to heart. We hope you will rediscover the magic of counselling, not as a clinical exercise, but as an art— a place where ideas flow to meet the needs of those entrusted to your care. 

Throughout “Counsellor Talk,” you’ll find practical tips, creative exercises, handouts, and ways to integrate technology into your practice. From mindfulness techniques to expressive tools via the arts, from narrative therapy to using technological tools —we’re here to help you expand your toolkit, inspire you to think outside the box and embolden you to make a real difference in the lives of those you serve.

 “Counsellor Talk” isn’t just about the nuts and bolts of counselling—it’s about the heart and soul behind the practice. It’s about rediscovering the joy in your work and rekindling the passion for helping others which is the first thing that drew you to this field.

What inspired us to write “Counsellor Talk” was you—the counsellors, the school counsellors, the therapists, and the healers who devote their lives to helping others. This book has been over 30 years in the making, but life got in the way. So here we are finally sharing some of our ideas and inspiration with you by never giving up our goal and publishing our first book. The journey continues as we go on the road to support you with in-depth workshops based on our book Counsellor Talk.

As two psychologists with over 60 years of combined counselling experience, we wish to inspire the next generation of counsellors as well as rejuvenate those seasoned professionals.

In writing this book we hope to pass on our passion and love of counselling. It has been the best part of our professional lives.

Counsellor Talk : Applying What You Know To Life

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As a counsellor it is easy to share what might work . Practicing it and living it is the real test to functioning well.

Here are a few strategies and tips that I not only have recommended to others, but have used myself:

  1. Wake up each day and try a little self talk Just for today I will make this the best day for me. No matter what the situation is we can all cope with things a little better if we break things down in chunks.
  • Just for this minute I can
  • For the next hour I will 
  • Just for today I can 

If we just think about today , not yesterday or the future life gets a little easier . I use this as much as humanly possible. I can do most anything just for today. At the end of the day I remind myself to be grateful. I was able to do a lot of things much better just for today over the years.

  1. Journaling Writing down your thoughts is a good thing. It’s a great way to release how you are thinking and feeling. There are so many things to write about . It’s also a great way to understand your thoughts so you can challenge them when necessary. I have learned a lot about myself through journaling it’s a great way to self reflect.
  1. Step away and step it up We all need to step away from situations. Taking a little breather by going for a walk is something we all can do and yes you can fit it into your day. 15 minutes in morning and fifteen minutes in the evening . I walked every single day last year and was very proud of myself for reaching this goal. This year I am still walking a lot , but don’t feel the need to do it every single day. I play pickleball singing and dancing and moving as much as possible. Do whatever works for you , but exercise. It is the best wellness tip and walking is free.
  1. Social connections They are vital to my wellbeing. I have cultivated and still do my friendships with people. They matter to me. Find ways to be a good friend daily and recognize you are never too old to have new friends in your life. Stay open and let others be there for you as well as being there for them. Surround yourself with positive people and let go of the negative people who do not help or support you.
  1. Spend time taking care of yourself When you help others sometimes you let go of taking care of yourself, I know I do. So take back you and nurture yourself like you would others. Treat yourself with tender loving care.
  1. Take time to talk to a counsellor We all need a little support now and then. I know I have. It is OK to reach out to a counsellor or therapist. It takes strength to talk about what’s really bothering you. Having an impartial listener to help eases some of the burdens we all carry around so reach out.

It’s not always easy applying what you know works in life , but the benefits are there for the taking so just for today try one thing that you already know works for you and apply it. Your day might just get a little brighter and you’ll see the world just a little differently. I know just for today I will.