Mother’s Day, for many, it’s a day filled with joy, love, and gratitude for the incredible women who have shaped our lives. But for others, it can be a day tinged with sadness, longing, or even pain. Whether you’re grieving the loss of a mother or mother-in-law like me, navigating a strained relationship, experiencing or have experiencing infertility in the past, you are not alone.
First and foremost, it’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling. Emotions are complex and valid, and there’s no right or wrong way to navigate them, especially on a day like Mother’s Day. If you’re struggling, give yourself permission to acknowledge and honor your emotions without judgment.
If you’re grieving the loss of a mother or a child, know that it’s natural for this day to bring up feelings of sadness, nostalgia, or even anger. Take the time to remember and cherish the memories you shared, and allow yourself to grieve in whatever way feels right for you. Surround yourself with supportive loved ones who can offer comfort and understanding. Be extra kind to yourself today.
For those who have faced infertility or struggling to conceive, Mother’s Day can serve as a painful reminder of unfulfilled dreams and desires. Know that your worth as a person is not defined by your ability to have children. Your journey is valid, and there is hope and support available to you, whether it’s through therapy, support groups, or connecting with others who understand your experience.
If you’re navigating a strained relationship with your mother or your children, remember that boundaries are important for your emotional well-being. It’s okay to prioritize your own needs and set boundaries that protect your mental health, even if it means stepping back from certain traditions or interactions on Mother’s Day. Esther Perel shares her experience with a post called I miss you and I’m happy you’re gone.
Ultimately, remember that you are worthy of love and compassion, regardless of your circumstances. If Mother’s Day feels difficult for you, know that it’s okay to create your own rituals and traditions that honor your experience and provide comfort. New rituals can be soothing and helpful. Whether it’s going for a walk and noticing all the beauty around you, practicing self-care, or simply being kind to yourself, prioritize activities that nourish your soul and bring you joy and peace.
And to those who are celebrating Mother’s Day with joy and gratitude, remember to extend empathy and compassion to those who may be finding this day difficult. Reach out to loved ones who may be struggling, offer a listening ear, and hold space for their emotions without judgment.
Above all, remember that you are never alone. Lean on your support network, seek professional help if needed, and remember that it’s a day.
On this day I’m pausing to think of all those who struggle for all the possible reasons and sending you as much positive energy as I can muster up.
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