Counsellor Talk : Connecting with those who want to make a difference.

It isn’t always easy to maintain a positive mindset, but it is vital when connecting with youth . They pick up on our emotions. We set the tone for them, so what we bring to the room in the way of our mindset affects the room. So before you enter the room have a little chat with yourself, breathe deeply and bring your passion for what you do into every interaction. At the end of the day you will be happy you did.

I met my hubby thirty seven years ago at a Halloween Party. I was a rainbow and I’m not sure what he was, although he was carrying around a duck. How lucky was I to have met such a great man on such a fun night.

My husband enjoys Halloween and getting ready ready for the kids is something he loves to do. He has always made it special for our own kids and others. This year was no exception.

What do you say when someone is in pain ? It isn’t easy I know.

Listening exists in a place beyond language. So listen well. It isn’t easy to help people in pain, but keep it simple and truly be present so that they will be able to share with you and release their pain.

Be supportive and demonstrate that they have your attention and are being heard.

Be patient , keep an open heart and mind. Let them know that you will be there for them. Find out what they need and act upon those things.

Find out if they wish to talk by engaging them in a conversation. If they don’t you will figure that out pretty quickly. Time may be needed , so respect where they are at and act accordingly.

Don’t avoid people in pain. It is a time they need you more than ever. If they cry , let them cry . Tears can be very healing. Just be there.

It isn’t easy being present to people in pain, but it is a gift to help them during their time of need.

If you would have walked along with me this week, you would have seen many things. Life is a series of ups and downs and zig zags. I’ve said many times one never knows what is around the corner and it is so true.

One of the blessings of my week was spending time in spiritual reflection, something I haven’t done in a long time. Deep reflection almost like the retreats I have attended in days gone by, but this time I was physically distanced from the participants and it was at the school I am presently working in.

It felt healing to think and reflect and question. I plan on making a little space in my days to be still and let God in. What better time to do that than in a pandemic.

I have always had great faith , but as of late I have let the connection I have had slip away. Today and yesterday I felt that presence in my life. A lovely warm feeling knowing I am loved and can share that love with others by my actions.

It is a reconnection that will give me a dose of love that is different from all the other love in my life. For that I am grateful.

As I grow and change, I recognize that there will always be room in my heart for love. I have been fortunate throughout the years to fill up my heart with family, friends and youth I have worked with.

Today as I reflect I recognize that I need to keep a space for love and that part of that space is the faith I have and the room for growth in that space.

I am open to all the love that will enter and transform me.There is a place in my heart now and forever.

It’s always a good day to find a way to help someone else. Think of ways everyday that you can do something for the betterment of humanity.

Being kind is good for your mind, so take time today to help others and in so doing your well being will benefit..